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“Is my foot getting whiter?” #MondayMusings

“Why am I not white?”

This was the question from last week. It was surprising for me, at least, because having lived all alone by ourselves with our own philosophies, Dhruv and I frequently discussed how the colour of the skin doesn’t matter, it is a person’s qualities that matter most. I thought living in a diverse and multi-cultural apartment complex in South India for 3 years was helpful to understand this point and I believed it did.

Then how come the question of not being white reared its head?

This wasn’t a one-off instance. Every day, he spent his time figuring out if his body parts were getting any whiter. The word ‘No’ for an answer did not provide any solace. Hence, it became pertinent for us to address the issue of skin colour once again citing difference in geographical condition from where people come from, Read more…

Down to Earth #ThursdayTreeLove 4


Grow like this tree

Spread out your branches


Stay down to earth

I am joining Parul Thakur, this week, with her post for the hashtag #ThursdayTreeLove 9

If you would like to play along, post a picture of a tree on your blog and link up using the linky On Parul’s Post. Let’s come together to appreciate the beautiful nature around us. 

The Giving Tree #ThursdayTreeLove 3

Have you read the book ‘The Giving Tree’ by Shel Silverstein?

The 3 photos of a tree here remind me of the story in ‘The Giving Tree.’

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Dealing with someone’s anger #MondayMusings


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A person is yelling at you for reasons you cannot understand or may be you do. That person is rejecting you with every sharp word that comes out of her mouth. What would you do in such a situation? Talk back, yell back or leave the place?

If you ask me, I will tell you it depends. If the person yelling and rejecting are my parents, I might talk back. If that person is my mother-in-law, I will leave the place.  However, on scrutinizing both the scenarios, one may realize that they aren’t helpful in minimizing the ill-effects of anger on account of both the parties.  Read more…

Wishful thinking or Idealism #BarAThon Day 6

This morning while I was on my morning walk, there were loud noises coming from the basement. I had one ‘Mummyknowitall’ for the company who told me there was a quarrel going on between  2 people over 2-wheeler parking.  I came to know one of them had been physically aggressive indulging in a fist fight. And then she said, “Punjabis are like this, aggressive and over the top.”

So, it boiled down to labeling. The act of fist fighting.was undesirable in itself but labeling the doer on the basis of the state he came from? Can we not do without it? Or is it just wishful thinking on my part? And, I am not a Punjabi.

It is not just about this incident. I have a long list of what can be considered as wishful thinking. Read more…

The case of black halwa #MondayMusings

This incident is from my childhood days when one of my aunts came to visit us with her 2 little daughters in summer vacation.

One evening, my mother offered to make sooji halwa (semolina pudding) for the kids, the 4 of us. She made it in her usual style with the perfect shade of brown. It was exactly like the way me and my brother liked it.

However, the Aunt’s daughters refused to eat it. They wailed Read more…

I see the light of hope

The last 3 days that went by poured news after news of killings, mass murder and hate crimes. There was a couple who shot innocent people in a mall in Los Angeles. Police termed this as terrorism. Then I read about the Montreal massacre which took place on 6th Dec 1989 in which the killer separated the women Read more…

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