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5 Parenting practices falling flat #ThrowbackThursday 5

There are some common parenting practices followed in nearly every home. These practices are supported by the premises that they have been followed over generations and hence now they form the invincible part of the parents’ DNA. But, do these time-tested practices really work in the present day context?

For this week’s #ThrowbackThursday, I am sharing an old post where I listed down 5 parenting practices which fall back flat on the parents’ face. Read and have fun.

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There are some common parenting practices followed in nearly every home. These practices are supported by the premises that they have been followed over generations and hence now these form the invincible part of the parents’ DNA. Based on my observations in my family and around, I have come up with 5 such practices which the parents exercise with their children and how they fall flat on their face.

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Cooking – A life skill or a mother’s duty? #ThrowbackThursday 4

Should cooking be considered as a woman’s job and a mother’s duty? Or should it be considered a life skill for man and woman alike? You and I will agree on the life skill aspect but what about scores of people who think it is a woman’s job only.

For this week’s #ThrowbackThursday, I am sharing a short story I wrote 3 years ago set around the above questions.

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A mother and her son were reading a book together. On one page they came across a picture in which the father was cooking in the kitchen and the mother was having breakfast at the table with her 2 kids. The mother talked about the picture with her son. The son promptly interjected, “but the mother should be cooking and the father should be eating”.

This bothered the mother. She realised that her 4-year-old who is still not aware of the stereotypes

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My word for the year 2015… #ThrowbackThursday 2

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Come January and the blogging world goes live with the Word of the year posts.

For 2018, my word is going to be ‘Organize‘.

I am quite an unorganised person and with 2018. I hope to make a difference in this regard. I am going to get better at organizing with my blog by maintaining a blog calendar and scheduling posts in advance. I will make efforts to stay organized in general too, with respect to the chores and the other daily stuff of life.

For today’s #ThrowbackThursday post, I am reposting my ‘Word of the Year 2015’ from January 2015. The word was ‘Positive’. It was the time when I began regaining control of my mind.

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When Dhruv was less than 1 year old, he (just like any other baby) frequently fell sick. I used to stress out a lot because I was not able to tend to him as I could not take frequent leaves from my work place. With his every bout of sickness I imagined like it was the end of the world and this used to push me into the vicious circle of negativity.

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We are learning to write #ThrowbackThursday 1

radBeginning today, I start the series #ThrowbackThursday where I will be reposting posts from the past years.
Today’s post is from December 2014 where I wrote about the efforts I was making with Dhruv to deal with his difficulty in holding the pencil correctly and his lack of interest in learning to write.

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Dhruv started nursery in Nov first week. He is now three and a half years. Until one month back he had been showing no interest in writing or colouring. Give him colour pencils or crayons and he would place them in his digger making them look like missiles. Hand him over a pencil and a notebook and he would give it back to us asking us to draw cars, buses and trucks for him. On our asking him to take the pencil and scribble on the paper after showing him how to do so, he would turn away making himself busy in his toys. I thought may be if I started writing my stories on paper or colouring pictures in front of him everyday he might pick up interest. That, however, did not happen.

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10 positive techniques to discipline our sons

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In the last article, we had seen the unique characteristics of boys (under the age of 5) and how they are different from girls. Equal but, yes, at the same time different. We have thus taken the first step to understanding our sons better.

Here are 10 techniques to encourage your son to listen, engage and accept discipline and boundaries. These techniques work with most of the boys. They are not difficult, but the more you try them the more they will work.

  • Touch and talk

If you want his attention, touch your son on the arm. Even if he looks away his ears will open. This isn’t a grip or a tug, just a touch. Read more…

5 ways boys are different from girls

 

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Boys are different from girls!

It is difficult disciplining sons while with daughters it is relatively much easier. Raise your hand if you have heard this or have talked about this.

Well, since I am the mother of an only son, I do not have the first-hand experience in this regard but have definitely heard about the same from fellow moms who are raising both sons and daughters. They often tell how exhausting it can be disciplining little boys while it isn’t the case with their daughters.

This led me to look into the research made in this area of how boys, even under the age of 5, are different from the girls in the same age group. These research findings are particularly helpful in understanding our boys better.

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4 Steps I follow to make my introvert child more confident #MMM

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I am an introvert and I will tell you I hated it every time people told me to be more open, to talk more and to socialize more. I am extremely comfortable in my own skin now after having spent a large part of my life in confusion trying to figure out if I am an alien in my world which is mostly inhabited by outgoing people.

I know about myself that I thrive in my interactions with like minded people and will just be nodding my head to the point of exhaustion when with other types of people. I avoid social gatherings most of the times because it is mostly about dressing up, discussing clothes and jewelry and gossiping, areas I am least qualified in. Therefore, you know that if I am there, I would have made great efforts on my part.

I have witnessed similar traits in Dhruv over the past years Read more…

Answering the unanswerable

“Mummy, tell me why do they show people kissing on the lips on TV? You say it is bad and nobody should do this.”

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Ooops! Now this is a tricky one,” I thought.

Kissing on the lips is not allowed with children is a part of the lesson I impart to him and remind him from time to time in addition to the other lessons on sexual abuse.

I did not have an answer. Read more…

My legacy: The paradoxical truths my daughter must know

As parents, we always want our children to suffer less in this journey of life. We hope to become answers to all of their questions but many a times words fail us, clarity fails us. And then we come across words of wisdom, speaking our minds in a perfectly balanced manner and one cannot stop sharing the same. This is a wonderful post by Shailaja Vishwanath.  Hope it touches your heart as much it touched mine.

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We all have important lessons we’d like to share with our kids. These are 5 important paradoxical truths I want to teach my daughter.

Source: My legacy: The paradoxical truths my daughter must know

Awareness makes parenting easier

Children come with their own personalities which, at times, can be way distinct from that of the parents’ and may come across as a shocker. It would have been a boon if parenting was an exact science where combining hydrogen and oxygen would always give H2O i.e. water but, sadly, it doesn’t because in the laboratory of life, catalyst being the child, combining hydrogen and oxygen has the tendency of creating a hydrogen bomb ready to cause an explosion. Thus, each one of us, as a parent, has to find one’s own means, one’s own ways. And, as if this wasn’t enough, we have the stars and the planets ruling the birth charts providing validations for the personality traits. Hence, the question  is whether parenting should function under the limitations of such validations passing the blame on the stars or there can be alternative paths explored?

Here is an excerpt of the guest post, I wrote addressing the above question in the personal context, which appeared on Sunita Rajwade‘s blog Mumbaionahigh.com last week. Read more…

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