Why did you come back to India? #SoulfulSunday

Why did you come back to India?

This is the question I get asked frequently. It has been over 8 months now since my return from the UK and this question does not seem to die down.

Photos by Pixabay (Tower Bridge), Raouf Tedjani (Hot air balloon), and Kritesh Kaushik (Taj Mahal) from Pexels.

It looks like most of the people I know as friends, family, and acquaintances have taken it upon themselves to solve this mystery. The mystery is why did I come back to India because clearly to them whoever goes abroad to live never comes back. Maano abraod na hua underworld ho gaya jahan insaan jaata to apni marzi se hai par vapasi ka raasta hamesha ke liye band ho jaata hai.

In a way, I do get them. I am not the standard one.

They didn’t see any photographs of me on social media in fashionable clothes and shoes and hats. I robbed them of the opportunity to get a glimpse of the fancy vacations I went for. I didn’t put up a show of my happy self brimming with toothy smiles with “Hey look, I am having a superbly good time over here!” I didn’t do any of the above in reality. Such an anomaly I have been, I tell you.

Yet, in a way, I do get them. I am not the standard one.

Instead, I tell them about the not-so-good part more than the good part, based on my experiences, to give them the authentic picture of the abroad, the UK in my case. They inform me they have never heard ill about living in the west be it the UK or the USA and I have spoiled their dream about the west. I do not feel sorry for their shattered illusions.

Despite this, in a way, I do get them. I am not the standard one.

I am joining EshaVinitha and Shilpa this week for Soulful Sunday.

Soulful Sunday


  1. Hey, Anamika, I hear you. Because I’m also not the standard one. I too returned back from South Africa during 2014 feeling my country is matchless to any country in the world. Welcome back to our Motherland!

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  2. Only those who lived abroad would know the hardships associated with living outside. Living in the US was never in my plans or in my dreams. But it happened. I wasn’t happy at all during the initial days with loneliness and leaving my job, etc. My husband was told to return back after 2 years which we were happy to do at that time, but things changed again. My relatives and all think that here I am living the life of a queen. They are not aware of the multiple roles I’m playing every day, the struggles I deal with here with no help whatsoever. Many of our friends went back to India because of that reason. And Anamika, you not being the standard one is what’s amazing about you. 😀

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  3. People who feel that life abroad is a bed of roses, will know the reality only after they have lived there. SO many people move out, but how many of those are really happy? How many secretly wish they could return? And, how many actually return?
    No, you are not the standard one, Anu. You followed your heart and made the right decision many won’t.

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  4. I suppose we all feel that connection to the home in our hearts. I feel this way about the state I was raised in my whole life. I can’t imagine leaving my country for longer than a vacation. I’m happy you’re “home” again. 😊

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  5. I’m just glad you’re home Anamika. All I’ll say is to each his/her own. One should be where ever their happiness is, as long as possible of course. Often it’s a case of the grass being greener on the other side.

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  6. I totally loved that underworld wala reason, Anamika. 😀
    Jokes apart, people have opinions and questions all the time, regardless of the things that we do or don’t. I’m not sure that they need to know everything that goes on in our lives or that we need to satisfy their curiosity always.
    Btw, I love it that you’re not the standard one. Tabhi to yeh post bani, hai na? And that’s what being authentic is all about, as well.
    There are many who live abroad and have kept this illusion of “everything is great here” alive by not sharing the real picture of what they go through or their struggles. Obviously, there are challenges and not everything has to be rosy all the time. That’s not being real. The way you feel about your life depends on many factors and the unique circumstances at the time, too. Whatever it is, I find such prying questions very offensive.

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  7. Living abroad isn’t easy, and people don’t understand that unless they’ve actually lived there and had to fend themselves. All the little comforts we take for granted here are high luxury there. But I guess the grass is always greener on the other side – until you go there are realize maybe it wasn’t all that green after all!


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