12 years ago.
I had been married for 3 years already and the pressure to have a baby was mounting upon me.
“Ek bachha to hona hi chahiye.” “You must have one child, atleast.”
The aged ladies had found a business for themselves to interfere in our lives. I never understood why our inability to have a child could become offensive to them as if we were, or precisely speaking I was, committing a crime by not embracing motherhood.
It became a terrible bother because one of them lived in the same house as we did and was available 24 x 7 to come up with creative dialogues leaving no stone unturned in making me feel guilty for the crime I was (or wasn’t) committing.
It wasn’t a cakewalk for me to concieve given the prevailing circumstances. I didn’t know any woman around me who did not have a child or had chosen not to have a child and somewhere down the line, I decided to give in to the pressure. I went through the hard way of IUI which involved hormones injection, visiting the hospital on every alternate day at the other end of the city for follicles monitoring and managing my job further at yet another end of the city. The stress was too much to handle. And, I got this treatment done twice within the duration of 6 months because the first IUI cycle failed to give results.
I entered the world of blogging.
I found amazing women here who were childless, many by choice. These women were strong, empathetic, motivating and inspiring to me in terms of how they led their life though I am sure they must gone through their own process in order to reach this stage.
It was a revelation for me. It was a realisation for me how the orientation of the women in my life, all those years ago, was limiting and faulty in determining the value of a woman by the way of if she can give birth to a child or not. The thought which used to cross my mind frequently in those days was in case I had known these wonderful women in the past, I would not have gone ahead with abusing my body and mind. I would have not given in to the pressure. I would have opted to remain child free.
Life is ironical. I got to meet these inspiring female bloggers through my blog which was a result of my motherhood and parenting tales. It was because of my stories with Dhruv that I got connected with them.