Learning continues for as long we live, whether we acknowledge it or not. And, when you are a mom, your children become the instrumental factor which ensures you get transformed into a completely new and improved version of yourself.
While I was a child, I used to wonder if my mother had some sort of superpowers or if she knew magic because everytime she could smell and unearth our, me and my brother’s, mischiefs. When Dhruv was born, I contemplated if I will ever be a smart mom as my mother? How was I going to develop the Mom’s Superpowers in minding him? As life meandered around over the last 5 years, I can tell you I have learnt enough (and continue to learn everyday) about playing the role of a mom, about trusting my instincts in raising him and about life in general. For once, I have also developed an extra pair of eyes behind my head, to Dhruv’s utmost fancy, to watch over him, to remind him to keep eating his meal, to finish his homework in time, to tidy-up even when I work in the kitchen facing the wall or when in another room.
Here are the 5 lessons I have learnt as a mother –
Cooking can give satisfaction –
I used to be that person who disliked, okay despised cooking. Since I never had culinary inclinations but was forcibly inducted into cooking, I never made an attempt to improve my cooking skills. This has changed now. The time spent in planning the ingredients for meal preparations and the actual cooking part gives me satisfaction now, especially when Dhruv finishes off his meal without the constant reminders.
Overcoming my comfort zones –
I was the person who spoke sparingly, kept to myself for the most of it and seldom crossed my comfort zones. Being a mother has definitely taken care of my introversion. I have discovered the chatty side of me and more often than not, I have transcended my comfort zone barriers. Once, I was forced to invite Dhruv’s teachers at home because he, as a 4 year old, wouldn’t simply accept that teachers don’t visit children at home. What all prep talks I had to give myself before agreeing to write a letter to his teachers, only I know. You can read about this episode in this post.
The truth is there is only one person for whom I dare to overcome my barriers and he is Dhruv. I wouldn’t do it for anyone else.
Heightened Awareness –
Being a mom, I could never have the luxury of getting away with whatever tantrum I threw at him, unlike my parents whom we never questioned back. Although he remains quiet when the situation is thick but he always comes back politely questioning and demanding if there was a need to let the things go, at my end, the way they went. The fact that I was (and am) answerable to him for my conduct, I had to work on my awareness levels to keep my temper in check.
Keeping the home remedies always handy –
I am not a fan of Allopathic medicines. I do not use them in conditions of stomach aches, cough & cold and fevers. Due to this, I always keep home remedies handy to treat such ailments. I have not taken Dhruv to the Doctor in the last 2 years for these conditions as I have been able to treat them at home. I am grateful that the sick days in my home in relation to Dhruv have been very few.
Now the fun part.
Cars have personality –
A car to me was a mere means of transportation. Being the mom, I had to learn cars are more than the generic term ‘CAR‘. They have names and they have to be honoured with the names at all times. The registration numbers of the cars are a source for constant quizzing. Eg- Which state is HR, TN, KA, JK etc? And, did I forget that Tyres also have names? Evening walks are meant for explorations all things cars.
Would you like to join me with your own 5 lessons learnt as a mom?
Also linking up with #MondayMusings hosted by Corinne Rodrigues
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