Mummy, why doesn’t Papa do laundry?
Mummy, why doesn’t Papa cook dinner?
Mummy, why doesn’t Papa drink tea?
The questions have started coming. The books that we read, the movies that we watch, the movies and television that we deliberately stay away from are becoming instrumental in creating a thought process in the 5-year-old.
My answer to the first 2 questions were “Papa se bhi ye kaam karva lenge” (we will get papa to do all this). Candidly speaking, this is crap for an answer because I do not know how to get the same done, how to get those tied up hands untied from the clutches of the restraint of not knowing how to do such jobs.
People around me, including family tells me I am up for a seemingly difficult task. When they witness Dhruv’s aggression, they are quick to comment “Oh he has to grow up to be a man” and I know what they mean. It is not going to be same as – I read, I read to him, I read with him, he reads and thus becomes a reader and a book lover for life. It is going to be challenging to break him free of the gender stereotypes because there will not be any example before him and he will be watching me do all the work at home. Off course, the remedy to my doing the housework is to employ maids but that is not the solution. The solution is partnership.
As of now, I do not have a road map but only a vision.