In the past week there were many Facebook updates about friends and classmates from the University days celebrating their wedding anniversaries ranging from 7-10 years. There was one thing common in the photographs in all the updates and that was Happy looking couples confessing their love for each other in written words for the world to inhale and exhale.
From my childhood memories, there were 2 photographs of my grandparents. One was of my Nana-Nani (maternal grandparents) and the other was of my Dada-Dadi (paternal grandparents). In both the photos, each one of them had stern and conscious looks on their faces. But that was a different era and it will go against my ‘sanskaari pravarti’ to even call them couples.
One will get the same looks as those in my grandparents’ photos if one was to click a photo of my in-laws together as a couple. None of them will even try to smile. They must have been married for 45 years.
My parents can still manage to get themselves clicked together in one frame slightly smiling, which I am sure is for the camera, in spite of being married for 37 years.
This makes me wonder what will make of me and Amit when we get old and what will our photos tell about us as a couple after 30 years of marriage.
Next year it will be our 10th wedding anniversary and it seems unbelievable. These 10 years seem to have passed in a blur with all the highs, lows and plateaus. Yes, there will be a Facebook update from my side, being the Facebook addict that I am , but minus any love confessions. Why if you ask so?
Then I am going to tell you a dialogue from a funny movie by the name ‘Flavors’. An elderly couple Mr & Mrs Gopalakrishnan visit their son in United States who is getting married there to an American girl. They meet the girl and the girl very sweetly mentions to them that they (the elderly couple) must be so much in love to have stayed together for so many years. At this Mrs Gopalakrishnan fumbles and tells her “Oh no no….we don’t talk about love back in India, we are just husband and wife.”