However, this post is not about him. Instead it is about me. It has happened to me, many a times, that I respond and react in a manner in certain situations just as my parents did. Those responses were such, at that time, which I disliked and even despised.
My mother would always tell me “jab padhni nahin hoti to kitaabein khareedti kyun ho.” (why do you buy books when you don’t read them). This statement irked me because there was the reference that I was wasting money in buying books.
My father’s reaction was slightly positive but still had this reference to spending money. He would say “ab books khareedi hain to padh bhi lo” (Now that you have bought books, so read them).
And how about my reaction? I saw the Level 3 Songbirds book lying on the table. I had been asking Dhruv for 2 weeks to read it but he would keep postponing reading it to the bed time and, later, at bed time he used to get very sleepy that he was falling asleep instantly. Then there was the busy Diwali week which meant fun without the reading part. On Saturday, I picked up the book and made my own statement in a heated state – ” I spend Rs 1000 every month on getting each of these books so that you can practice reading and you don’t care”.
The moment I blurted out I realised what had I done. I had reacted in the same manner which I used to despise. Dhruv is only 4.5 years old and I want him to develop reading skills for the love of it and not for the money spent (less or more) on buying books. Henceforth, I am going to keep a watch on my responses.