This Sunday I met 2 women virtually.
One of them is an attractive personality. She dresses very well, cooks very well and she writes/blogs brilliantly. Her friends swear by the way she looks, the topics she writes about, the way she dresses and by everything she cooks and bakes. They want to be like her and never leave a chance to tell her so.
But there is an issue. She wants to work but not many worthy opportunities came her way after she took a break of 1 year post child birth. And she blames parenthood. Her child is now 3 years old and motherhood and parenthood are still itchy subjects for her. She can debate and argue for huge lengths of time against the topic – ‘Parenthood is tough yet wonderful’ with the intention of winning every argument.
The other person has nothing great about her personality. She is short and fat. She is average in cooking and dressing up, nothing she can boast of. She never gets into arguments because she knows she is not good at winning them and nobody has ever said to her that they want to become like her, hence has no inclinations or expectations.
This person continued working for a couple of years after her child was born but then owing to many issues – family related, baby related, work related and her inability to strike a balance among all, she quit. She wanted to work too but could not. She struggled with herself for a year and then she drew the line. She accepted ‘Parenthood is wonderful’.
The first person holds the second one as fake.
PS: Let us not judge any one of the two for their beliefs.